I like this guy and his personality is AMAZING. He’s everything I want EXCEPT I’m not 100% attracted to him. I’ve dated some really hot guys and I’m wondering if that’s ruined dating for me? What do I do?

It’s actually quite a simple concept, but we don’t want to emotionally accept it being like that. :)

Don’t make the grave mistake of dating a guy who you’re not that attracted to. Be friends but more than friends (FWB) — if you’re up for that type of thing and are in no hurry to meet a future long-term boyfriend — it’s the “gear” we’re in when we think they’re not bad looking or anything, but we’re not sufficiently attracted to them to romantically date.

Guys, unlike [a vast majority of] gals are not picky at all on looks, to just fool around. You, and most other gals, will actually have a higher ‘bar’ a guy needs to be at in the looks dept to be willing to whimsically fool around VS willing to go out on a romantic date. Guys are in the opposite direction — the girl doesn’t have to be very attractive looking for him willing to fool around; just not ugly to him. Thus, guys have a lower ‘bar’ a girl needs to be at, for him willing to fool around. This is how college-aged women can get confused, as they don’t put this in perspective.

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And yeah, dating hot guys over time does ante-up your tastes. This is one reason why young gals can get confused & frustrated in the dating scene. They may be kinda-dating particular guys or being FWBs with them, but the guy’s not that into them — thus thinking “guys are so [bleep].” The real issue is that it’s guys you can’t quite fully ‘get’ that are so [bleep] — or shall I say not sufficiently interested — to you.

Yes, guys are not going to have a great personality to women he’s more than platonic with when he can “do better”, and she wants to be BF/GF. Same goes for females — gals are not going to have a great personality to men she’s more than platonic with and she can “do better”, and he wants to be BF/GF.

Instead, you’re probably really geeked about how he is as a person and you’ve always wanted a guy like that — but when you date hot guys, they lack the persona you’ve always wanted (guys with great personas AND hot are ‘too good’ for you and almost all gals).

Hello, I have a question about astral projection. I started to get interested in this a little while after my mum passed in april. I thought I may be able to see her and speak with her if I managed to achieve astral projection. Since this interest, every time i sleep on my back I go into sleep paralysis. However, I cant progress into astral projection because it is very scary for me as I feel like I'm suffocating when this happens. I panic and force myself to wake up. This only ever happened about once a year before this. It sometimes lasts a long time. This has happened about 3 times per week since my mum died, as mentioned on a previous post. I no longer try to go into it anymore(due to the suffocating feeling), but it still happens. I read that sleep paralysis is the pathway to astral projection. Why has this started to happen so frequently since simply taking an interest in it? Is this connected to the afterlife? I am concerned about it as I now cannot seem to stop this happening. Could it be my mum trying to communicate? Im asking due to more knowledge around this in this group.

If the thought of “I’m not entirely attracted to him” comes to mind — you’re not attracted to him, if you already got to know him. Sorry, you can’t change it. Maybe in 10 years your tastes will open up. :)